Case Patterns Library
Recognize common manipulation tactics, understand the patterns, and learn exactly what to do next.
These patterns appear repeatedly in custody cases. Armed with this knowledge and AI tools, you can detect them early, document them properly, and respond effectively.
Withheld Medical Records
High RiskOne parent restricts access to children's medical information, schedules appointments without notice, or makes medical decisions unilaterally despite joint custody.
Common Examples
- Doctor appointments scheduled on your custody time without notification
- Medical records requested but never provided
- Emergency room visits you learn about weeks later
- Prescriptions filled without your knowledge or consent
- Medical providers told you have no decision-making authority
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Claims of "emergency" for routine appointments
- ⚠Pattern of scheduling during your parenting time
- ⚠Refusal to share doctor contact information
- ⚠Claims you "weren't available" when you were
- ⚠Medical decisions made then presented as fait accompli
Example Timeline
How Withheld Medical Records Typically Unfolds
Appointment Scheduled Without Notice
Child taken to specialist during father's custody time. Father not notified until day after.
Evidence:
- Text message received day after
- Doctor's appointment summary
Medical Records Request
Father emails request for all medical records per court order.
Evidence:
- Email to mother with court order reference
No Response to Records Request
Mother ignores records request. Father documents 15-day delay.
Evidence:
- Follow-up email
- Court order Section 4.2
Prescription Filled Without Consent
Father discovers child on new medication. Never consulted or notified.
Evidence:
- Pharmacy receipt
- Text exchange
- Court order requiring joint medical decisions
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Document Every Instance
Create a medical decisions log with dates, appointments, and your attempts to get information.
Use our Violation Log TemplateRequest in Writing
Email requesting all medical records and provider contact information. Reference court order section.
Use our Email Response TemplateContact Providers Directly
Send HIPAA release forms directly to doctors, schools, therapists. You have legal right as parent.
Download HIPAA Release TemplateFile Motion if Pattern Continues
After 3+ documented violations, file motion for contempt and request makeup decision-making authority.
Consult with attorneyMisuse of Ex Parte Orders
Critical RiskOpposing party obtains emergency court orders without notifying you, often based on exaggerated or false claims of danger or urgency.
Common Examples
- Emergency custody order obtained claiming imminent danger with no evidence
- Ex parte order for exclusive possession of home during your custody time
- Temporary restraining order based on false claims
- Emergency medical decision authority granted without notice
- Ex parte order modifying custody before you can respond
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Claims of "emergency" for non-emergency situations
- ⚠No police report despite claims of violence or threats
- ⚠Pattern of filing ex parte orders before major hearings
- ⚠Claims you "couldn't be reached" when you were available
- ⚠Orders obtained during your work hours when you can't respond quickly
Example Timeline
How Misuse of Ex Parte Orders Typically Unfolds
Ex Parte Order Filed
Mother files emergency motion claiming father made "threats" via text. No police report filed.
Evidence:
- Court filing
- No police report on record
Emergency Hearing Held
Judge grants temporary order removing father's custody. Father not notified or present.
Evidence:
- Court order
- No service of process
Father Learns of Order
Father arrives for custody exchange. Mother shows order. Father had no notice.
Evidence:
- Time-stamped text exchange
- Father's work schedule showing he was available
Father Reviews "Threatening" Texts
Father provides complete text thread to attorney. Shows messages taken out of context.
Evidence:
- Complete text thread
- Context showing discussion of scheduling
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
File Emergency Motion to Dissolve
Within 24-48 hours, file motion to dissolve ex parte order and request immediate hearing.
Hire attorney immediatelyProvide Complete Context
If order based on communications, provide complete unedited threads showing context and full conversation.
Use AI to analyze communicationsDocument No Emergency Existed
Prove no emergency: your availability, normal routine, children's safety, lack of police involvement.
Create evidence timelineRequest Sanctions
If ex parte was based on false claims, request sanctions against party/attorney for abuse of process.
Discuss with attorneyNoncompliance Weaponization
High RiskOther party deliberately violates court orders, then claims you are uncooperative when you document or enforce compliance.
Common Examples
- Consistently late to exchanges, then claims you're "inflexible"
- Violates order provisions, then files motion claiming YOU're not following orders
- Ignores communication requirements, then says you won't communicate
- Makes unilateral decisions, then claims you weren't available to consult
- Withholds children, then accuses you of being absent
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Pattern of 5-15 minute delays that add up over time
- ⚠Claims of "miscommunication" for clear order violations
- ⚠Accuses you of behavior they are demonstrating
- ⚠Files motion claiming noncompliance after you document their violations
- ⚠DARVO pattern: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender
Example Timeline
How Noncompliance Weaponization Typically Unfolds
Exchange 15 Minutes Late
Mother arrives 15 minutes late to exchange. Claims "traffic." No advance notice.
Evidence:
- Text timestamp requesting ETA
- No response
- Arrival time documented
Exchange 20 Minutes Late
Mother again late to exchange. Claims she texted but father has no text received.
Evidence:
- Phone records showing no text received
- Child delivered at 6:20 PM vs 6:00 PM order
Father Documents Pattern
Father sends email documenting pattern of late exchanges and requesting compliance.
Evidence:
- Email with dates/times of late exchanges
- Court order Section 3.1
Mother Files Motion
Mother files motion claiming father is "uncooperative" and "creating conflict" by tracking exchange times.
Evidence:
- Court filing
- Complete opposite of documented facts
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Document Everything Meticulously
Log every late exchange, missed communication, order violation with date, time, and evidence.
Use Violation Log TemplateCommunicate Only in Writing
All communication through text/email. Creates paper trail. Use emotionally neutral language.
Use Email Response TemplateBuild Pattern Timeline
Use AI to create chronological timeline showing pattern of violations followed by false accusations.
Timeline Builder with AIFile Counter-Motion
Respond to false motion with factual timeline, evidence of compliance, and documentation of their violations.
Work with attorneyPsychiatric Diagnosis Weaponization
Critical RiskOpposing party or their attorney makes claims about your mental health, suggests psychiatric evaluation, or uses therapy/medication history against you.
Common Examples
- Claims you are "unstable" or "mentally unfit" without evidence
- Requests court-ordered psychological evaluation as intimidation tactic
- Uses your past therapy attendance as evidence of problems
- Claims medication you take makes you unfit parent
- Submits letter from their therapist about your behavior (despite never treating you)
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Vague claims of "erratic behavior" or "instability"
- ⚠Request for psych eval filed strategically before major hearing
- ⚠No specific incidents cited, just general character attacks
- ⚠Uses your proactive mental health care against you
- ⚠Letter from medical professional who has never evaluated you
Example Timeline
How Psychiatric Diagnosis Weaponization Typically Unfolds
Motion for Psych Eval Filed
Mother's attorney files motion requesting court-ordered psychological evaluation of father.
Evidence:
- Court filing
- Claims with no supporting evidence
Father Reviews Claims
Motion cites father's "anger issues" based on his request for compliance with court order.
Evidence:
- Previous emails showing professional, factual communication
Father Obtains Letter
Father's therapist provides letter confirming treatment for divorce stress, no mental health concerns.
Evidence:
- Therapist letter
- Treatment notes showing proactive self-care
Hearing on Motion
Judge denies motion after reviewing father's proactive therapy and lack of evidence for concerns.
Evidence:
- Court transcript
- Judge's order denying motion
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Do Not React Emotionally
This tactic is designed to provoke you. Stay calm and factual in all responses.
Review communication strategiesObtain Provider Letters
If you're in therapy or see a doctor, get letter stating you're fit parent with no concerns about children's safety.
Contact your providersDocument Retaliation Pattern
Show that psych eval request came after you enforced order or documented violations.
Build timelineOffer Mutual Evaluation
If motion persists, agree only if both parties undergo evaluation by same neutral expert.
Attorney negotiationJudicial Assistant Procedure Abuse
Medium RiskOpposing counsel has relationship with judge's JA, uses procedural knowledge to gain advantage, or manipulates scheduling and access.
Common Examples
- Emergency hearings scheduled with one day notice (you get standard 10 days)
- JA provides procedural information to opposing counsel but not to you
- Your motions take weeks to get heard, theirs get expedited
- Opposing counsel knows judge's preferences/pet peeves you don't
- Your calls to JA go unreturned, theirs are answered immediately
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Opposing counsel refers to judge or JA by first name
- ⚠They know internal procedures you weren't told about
- ⚠Your motions get "lost" or delayed repeatedly
- ⚠Hearing dates that work for them but not you
- ⚠They seem to know judge's ruling tendencies in advance
Example Timeline
How Judicial Assistant Procedure Abuse Typically Unfolds
Father Files Motion
Father files motion for enforcement. Told by JA it will be 4-6 weeks for hearing date.
Evidence:
- Filing receipt
- JA communication
Mother Files Counter-Motion
Mother files motion. Hearing scheduled within one week, on date father cannot attend.
Evidence:
- Court notice
- Father's calendar showing work conflict
Father Requests Continuance
Father files motion to continue due to work obligation and insufficient notice.
Evidence:
- Motion for continuance
- Work schedule
- Local rule requiring 10 days notice
Hearing Proceeds Without Father
Court denies continuance. Hearing held with only mother present. Temporary order entered.
Evidence:
- Order denying continuance
- Temporary order entered
- Due process concerns
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Document Every Procedural Irregularity
Log all scheduling issues, delayed responses, and unequal treatment.
Procedure log templateKnow the Local Rules
Get copy of local court rules and administrative orders. Cite them in motions.
Florida Courts websiteRequest Hearing Dates in Writing
All scheduling requests via email with read receipts. CC opposing counsel.
Email documentationConsider Recusal Motion
If pattern is extreme and documented, may need to file motion for judge to recuse.
Consult attorneyLawyer Stall Tactics
High RiskOpposing attorney deliberately delays proceedings, misses deadlines, requests continuances, or files motions to extend litigation and drain your resources.
Common Examples
- Requests continuance day before hearing (third time this year)
- Misses discovery deadline, then requests extension
- Files last-minute motions requiring responses on short notice
- Scheduling conflicts for every date you propose
- Incomplete discovery responses requiring multiple follow-ups
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Pattern of continuances always benefiting them
- ⚠Miss deadlines but oppose your extension requests
- ⚠Each motion spawns three more motions
- ⚠Case drags on for years with no resolution
- ⚠Billing your attorney for unnecessary conferences
Example Timeline
How Lawyer Stall Tactics Typically Unfolds
Discovery Requests Served
Father serves discovery requests. Opposing counsel has 30 days to respond per rules.
Evidence:
- Certificate of service
- Discovery requests
Request for Extension
Opposing counsel requests 30-day extension. Father agrees to one 15-day extension.
Evidence:
- Email agreement
- 15-day extension granted
Incomplete Responses
Opposing counsel provides partial discovery responses. Many documents missing.
Evidence:
- Discovery responses
- List of missing items
Motion to Compel Filed
Father files motion to compel complete discovery. Requests attorney fees.
Evidence:
- Motion to compel
- Fee request
Opposing Counsel Requests Continuance
Day before hearing on motion to compel, opposing counsel requests continuance for "scheduling conflict."
Evidence:
- Motion for continuance filed at 4:30 PM
- Pattern of delays
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Track Every Delay Meticulously
Create timeline showing pattern: deadline, delay request, new deadline, missed again.
Delay pattern trackerOppose Continuances with Facts
When opposing continuance, cite pattern of delays and prejudice to you and children.
Motion to oppose continuanceRequest Attorney Fees
For every delay or incomplete response, request fees in your motions.
Work with attorneyFile Motion for Case Management Order
Request court impose strict deadlines with consequences for non-compliance.
Attorney assistanceBaker Act & Parental Rights
Critical RiskChild is Baker Acted (involuntary psychiatric hold) and you as parent are not notified, excluded from decisions, or your rights are violated during process.
Common Examples
- School Baker Acts child without contacting you first
- Other parent initiates Baker Act without your knowledge
- Hospital refuses to share information despite your parental rights
- You learn about Baker Act from child days after release
- Treatment decisions made without your input despite joint custody
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠School has history of overusing Baker Act
- ⚠Other parent claims sole medical authority they don't have
- ⚠Hospital staff told you have no decision-making rights
- ⚠Child Baker Acted after you enforced court order
- ⚠No genuine safety concern, used as control tactic
Example Timeline
How Baker Act & Parental Rights Typically Unfolds
Child Baker Acted at School
School initiates Baker Act. Contacts mother only despite joint custody and shared parental responsibility.
Evidence:
- School records
- No contact to father
- Court order showing joint authority
Father Learns from Child
During scheduled phone call, child mentions being in hospital. Father had no notification.
Evidence:
- Phone log
- Text to mother requesting information
- No response
Father Contacts Hospital
Father provides ID and court order to hospital. Told mother instructed them not to share information.
Evidence:
- Hospital records request
- Court order
- Hospital denial of access
Father Files Emergency Motion
Father files emergency motion for enforcement of parental rights and access to medical information.
Evidence:
- Emergency motion
- Court order violation documentation
- HIPAA release forms
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Provide Court Order to School/Hospital Immediately
Give certified copy of custody order to child's school and pediatrician now. Don't wait for incident.
Contact school adminKnow Florida Baker Act Rights
Florida law requires notification to both legal parents. Know your rights under F.S. 394.463.
Research Florida statutesFile HIPAA Release with Providers
Send HIPAA authorization forms to all medical/mental health providers. Your right as legal parent.
HIPAA release templateDocument Rights Violations
If excluded from Baker Act process despite legal rights, document everything and file motion immediately.
Emergency motionText/Email Manipulation Patterns
High RiskCommunications are taken out of context, selectively edited, misrepresented in court filings, or used to create false narrative.
Common Examples
- Single text shown without context of full conversation
- Your response to provocation shown without the provocation
- Time stamps removed to change apparent sequence of events
- Screenshot edited to remove their messages
- Email subject line changed in their filing
Red Flags to Watch For
- ⚠Affidavit quotes your message but not what you were responding to
- ⚠Screenshots with unusual cropping or gaps
- ⚠Claims you said something "threatening" but won't show full context
- ⚠Time gaps in their evidence that hide their actions
- ⚠You don't recognize phrasing they attribute to you
Example Timeline
How Text/Email Manipulation Patterns Typically Unfolds
Exchange Discussion via Text
Mother asks to change exchange time. Father responds that he needs advance notice per order. 15 text exchange.
Evidence:
- Complete text thread
- Factual discussion of schedule
Mother Sends Provocative Message
Mother texts "You never think about what's best for the kids, you only care about the schedule."
Evidence:
- Text message
- Part of pattern of personal attacks
Father Responds Factually
Father responds: "The schedule IS what's best for stability. Court order requires 24hr notice for changes."
Evidence:
- Father's response
- Professional tone
- References court order
Affidavit Misrepresents Exchange
Mother's affidavit shows only father's text out of context, claims he's "rigid and uncaring about children."
Evidence:
- Affidavit excerpt
- Missing context
- Selective editing
AI Tip: Use ChatGPT or Claude to analyze your documents and extract dates automatically. Upload all emails, texts, and court orders to create a comprehensive timeline like this.
What To Do Next
Always Keep Complete Records
Never delete communications. Use apps that prevent editing. Back up to cloud storage regularly.
TalkingParents or OurFamilyWizardProvide Full Context
When responding to selective quotes, provide complete unedited conversation with timestamps.
Full thread documentationUse AI to Analyze Patterns
Upload all communications to AI. Ask it to identify selective editing, missing context, and manipulation.
ChatGPT/Claude analysisRequest Original Metadata
File discovery request for original communications with full metadata, not screenshots.
Discovery motionQuick Pattern Reference
How to Use This Library
Recognize the Pattern
Read through each pattern. When you see familiar behavior, you've found your match.
Document Using Timeline
Follow the example timeline structure to document your specific situation with dates and evidence.
Take Action Steps
Follow the "What To Do Next" workflow. Use our templates and AI tools to respond effectively.
Patterns Only Work When You Don't See Them Coming
Now you know what to look for. Use AI tools to document everything and build your case systematically.
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